Wednesday, November 27, 2013

Thoughts on being positive!

Via
 
 
 
 
For as long as I can remember, my heart’s desire has been to share happiness and positivity with everyone I meet. My friend Sarah recently called that being a sunbeam catcher. I love that!
I’m a work in progress, and believe me I have days where I am grouchy (my sweet, silly son Colin waking up at 3 am and not.going.back.to.sleep is one example of a day where you can find me a little bit lackluster and dull! That was today, by the way. Haha) ;) but I have found that as I go along there is one thing that is so crucial to being happy. Stay positive, and be thankful. Simple, really, we all know that. :)
 
What does being positive mean to you? What are some of the things you do that help you?

Just focusing on the good in a situation and not giving a minute of your time and attention to the negative will mean that you have more good coming your way than bad! The Law of Attraction is a real thing. <3
 
I can be positive by remembering that hard times and difficult situations have a purpose. I’ve been learning the hard way through a difficult situation that won’t seem to go away that the less I focus on it, the happier my life is. When I do think about those negative situations, I try to focus more on the lesson than the actual event or circumstances. This is especially true for things that are out of my hands. Have you ever noticed someone who seemed impossibly happy, in spite of their circumstances? They’re focusing on the good things in their lives.  On the flip side, when I have found myself caught up in the negative, everything seems darker. Thankfully, those moments don’t come often. No one wants to feel that way! Don’t let one bad thing make you feel like your day, or week, or life as a whole is negative. You are worth more than that. :)  
 
I can be positive by being thankful for all of the things I have been blessed with. And I am very blessed! I love this month because so many people have been posting their “30 days of thankfulness” on Facebook. Seeing people voicing their thankfulness for the big things, the little things, the every day things, makes me happy! Positivity is contagious. And I bet that everyone posting these have found themselves happier lately, because they’re attracting more good things to themselves just by being thankful for what they already have.  (I really believe that if you’re not mindful and aware of what you already have, you may be “stuck” and not see yourself moving forward towards goals and growth in your life.)
 
I can be positive by taking the time to just be. To enjoy each moment and season as it passes..it won’t come again.
 
I can be positive by encouraging someone else to see their own light and worth. One of the greatest things is to see someone else come alive and filled with purpose. If you can be a small part of that by encouraging them you will also be tremendously impacted!
 
I can be positive by realizing that I, in turn, have a purpose that I am here to fulfill. It’s really humbling and exciting to think about that. What difference can we make while we’re here? The truth is, you and I can make lots of positive differences in our world. 
 
I would love to hear from you! If you have any practices in place that have helped you be more joyful and spread it to others please share! You can comment below.
Have a very Happy Thanksgiving!
 
The more you praise and celebrate your life, the more there is in life to celebrate.”

Friday, November 22, 2013

Inspiration




Some pretty inspiration for your Friday. <3
I'm a lover of a good quote! You can find a lot more that I've collected on this Pinterest board.

And one more quote. Because today could be the day that you start something amazing. <3

"Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be?"
-Marianne Williamson

Wednesday, November 20, 2013

Overwhelmed and thankful

I just want to say thank you. Thank you to every person who has stopped by and read my blog post about my husband's story.
In a day and a half, that post has received just under five thousand views. You are amazing!
Please keep his story of overcoming odds and being more than a survivor moving. We all need to be reminded that we are more than what we've gone through.
You can hit one of the icons next to the bottom of his story to share it via email, blogger, twitter, facebook or google+.

I'm so grateful for you!

Monday, November 18, 2013

His story








"Can I ask what happened to you?"

In the store. In elevators. At the park. Locally, and any time we go out of town. He gets this question a lot.

Sometimes (a lot of times) people stare. Children, and adults too. We recently went to have lunch with my daughter Katie, and looking back at us in the cafeteria were rows and rows of kids looking at Brad. Staring. Curious. He's used to it. He smiles, and makes sure that who ever is thinly disguising their shock, or curiosity, knows that he's so much more than his scars.

For me, I never saw Brad any way other than who he is.
The single most positive person I have ever met. (If you meet him you'll know that too.) :)
He's someone who has a heart of gold, who's a hard worker and is kind to everyone.
Someone who is not limited. Someone who will inspire you, the second you meet him.
So it took me by surprise when we started dating and we got so many looks everywhere we went.

I wanted to share his story, because we should all have more "Brad's" in our lives. :)
Someone who will overcome every single obstacle put before them, and will be better for them.

When my husband was two years old, his life changed drastically. He and his parents were on vacation, riding along in their 68 Dodge van. He was just a baby. A blonde haired little cutie with big blue eyes, who was standing in the front of the van  in between his Mama and Daddy. (He smiles and tells me now "they didn't have seat belt laws then".)
But something was wrong. There was a pin hole in the gas line of the van. That gas was dripping onto the top of the engine, and it sparked. The van caught fire, and Brad was right in line of the fire that engulfed the cab. Out of instinct, his parents bailed out of the van at first. And as the van rolled down the freeway, Brad was in the van alone. Burning. By the time his father caught up with the van and pulled Brad out by his ankles, the fire had burned roughly 60% of his body. But he was alive.
As a parent, I absolutely can't imagine the terror that was felt on that day.

Brad was flown to the nearest burn unit, where he was stabilized and the doctors assessed the damage from the accident. After he was stable he was flown to the hospital Rancho Los Amigos in his home state of California, where he'd spend the next nine months straight. Surgery after surgery. Skin grafts, reconstructive surgery. Therapy to help him learn how to eat again, to walk again.

Even after being released from the hospital that first time, he would go back about twice a year for more surgeries.

But something happened that I love because it's so indicative of Brad's character. He pushed himself, really hard. He learned to button his shirts by himself. (You see, Brad has no fingers)
Even still, Brad wears button down shirts nearly every day. Because he can. :) Because he's a tad bit stubborn, and has a whole lot of perseverance. :)

Brad reminds me that we all have a choice. We can be crippled by things that happen to us, or we can grow beyond them and be more than we may have otherwise. If Brad hadn't have been in the accident that day, he may not have learned to be a conqueror. He may not have become an awesome drummer, a great basketball player. He may not have become a person who never complains.
He may not have become a camp counselor at Camp Sunshine, mentoring children who have scars of their own.
He may not have been as compassionate, as determined to be positive.
He may not have been quite as funny as he is. (I can't tell you how many times he's said something like- "Well, something is wrong with that, but I can't put a finger on it") :)

He may not have become who he is. He has peace about the cards he's been dealt.
I love that so many people have said that they're better for knowing him. They're the ones who go beyond "what happened to you?" and get to know him, for who he is. More than his skin.
I am thankful for the light that he has inside of him. I'm thankful to share life with someone who truly inspires me, every day.
And he reminds me that we should all look a little bit deeper at a person. We all have our scars, we've all been through things that have changed us. Who we become after is what matters.

Paint yourself a picture
Of what you wish you looked like
Maybe then they just might
Feel an ounce of your pain

Come into focus
Step out of the shadows
It's a losing battle
There's no need to be ashamed

'Cause they don't even know you
All they see is scars
They don't see the angel
Living in your heart

Let them find the real you
Buried deep within
Let them know with all you've got
That you are not your skin
Oh oh, oh oh

And when they start to judge you
Show them your true colors
And do on to others
As you'd have done to you

Just rise above this
Kill them with your kindness
Ignorance is blinded
They're the ones that stand to lose

'Cause they don't even know you
All they see is scars
They don't see the angel
Living in your heart

Let them find the real you
Buried deep within
Let them know with all you've got
That you are not your skin
Oh

Well they don't even know you
All they see is scars
And they don't see the angels
Living in your heart

So let them find the real you
Buried deep within
Let them know with all you've got
That you are not
You are not your skin
Oh oh, oh oh

Lyrics from Skin-Sixx A.M. Brad and his friend Eric performed this song at Camp Sunshine and it was perfect.

Thursday, November 14, 2013

Oh baby, baby





Oh, this baby boy.
I could spend all day snuggling him and kissing him and staring at him while he sleeps. AND, thanks to an extended maternity leave, I have been doing a lot of that. :)
I'm so thankful for all of the days that we've spent together. I'll be back at work soon and am so glad that I've gotten all of these special moments to look back on.

I can't believe he'll be two months old Saturday! Already holding his head up straight and strong (shouldn't surprise me, since he lifted his head at just five hours old in the hospital!) and smiling every day with a cute little laugh in there once in awhile. He loves to be held, and to be warm, and hardly ever cries.
He loves listening to his Daddy's music, always holds on tight to us when we're holding him, and he goes to sleep like a champ at night. (We've already had a few nights of him sleeping through the night!)

My sweet little Parker Logan. <3

Monday, November 11, 2013

Dream a little bigger

Taken on my iPhone



 
Dream big dreams, imagine yourself making a difference, having a blessed and fulfilled life. Picture what you'd like to accomplish in the next week, month, year.
The most successful people I know didn't get there by accident. :)

Happy Monday!

Wednesday, November 6, 2013

Digital Fall cleaning :)




Sometimes it feels SO good to go through and clean out your digital world! ;) Tonight I'm cleaning out my favorites folder full of websites I never visit, accounts I no longer have, etc. and I'm clearing out my email inbox. Try it! :) I truly believe that when we hold on to clutter (physical or digital-tangible or mental) it blocks us from new and fresh things coming our way.

One little step towards being mindful of making room for growth, and focusing on the things that I love and can use in the here and now. :)

Tuesday, November 5, 2013

taken with my iphone and edited with Lumie and Rhonna Farrer Designs apps.

This week I'm re-reading The Secret.
I love the idea that you can create the life you want.  My husband and I were talking this week about the importance of dreaming...being one step ahead of your life in what you want and where you want to be. I think that it's so true...imagine it first and you'll hold it in your hand. :)